The Soul Mate Connection

When asked to do readings for people I would have to say that the vast majority
of the questions are on relationship concerns.
One of the most frequently asked questions are about the soul mate connection.
The soul mate connection is a wonderful connection
yet it most often a difficult one, at least in the beginning.
It amuses me when I see advertisements about finding your “soul mate”.
The ads make it appear as if this is the fairy tale match of your lifetime
“The perfect man/woman to meet your every romantic desire”.
Is there really such a thing? Well, I’d have to say yes and no.

A soul mate relationship is a very special connection unlike any other.
What characterizes a soul mate relationship?
How do you know you are in one? Here are a few clues:

Do you and this other person often have a “mind meld”
where you are both thinking the same thing at the same time?

Do you find that you have so much in common with each other?
The more you get to know them, the scarier it becomes
in how they can read your mind.

You feel so at home with them because they are your other half.

Is this a relationship that you just can’t seem to walk away from
no matter how frustrating it gets?

For some reason your heart won’t let you forget and move on.
It’s actually your soul that won’t allow it.

When you are with the other, do you feel the lightness from your soul?

You may say “there’s just something about him/her
that I can’t put my finger on it’s just there and it feels good.”

It’s your soul feeling the joy of finding its mate from the previous journey
you’ve had together. It’s an internal smile!

Is there often conflict and frustration between you?
Soul mates were brought together for a reason.
Each is brought to the other to teach them a lesson in this life
and it is for this reason there is often conflict between you.
This can be a lesson about unconditional love, patience, acceptance etc.
This should not be mistaken for abusive, co dependent,
or other toxic relationships that people can find themselves in.

In soul relationships there is conflict in the sense of a push pull
way of thinking but underneath the love and respect are there always.
You are being challenged in the way you think about things but you are not belittled or abused in any way.

The intense feelings that arise from this type of connection
are often frightening to a person who” thinks”
rather than allows themselves to “feel’.
When this happens, that person will often back away thus causing
the other onemuch confusion and hurt.
It takes a lot of patience to understand the other person’s fear
and wait for their return.

Finally, I am often asked, “is it always going to be this hard’?
The answer is no.
Once both parties have dealt with their feelings
and come together, the joy of the soul will outweigh any residual conflicts
that are part of the learning process they must go through together,
and the partnership will not only grow and flourish,
but get more joyful each day. If you find yourself involved
in a soul connected relationship,
hang on with all you’ve got it will be well worth it in the end.